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Panic and Anxiety Attacks, Information, Help and Support

Do you suffer from panic and anxiety attacks? If so, you are NOT alone. It is said that just over 35% of the population will suffer at some point in their life. I suffered for 10 long years, until I finally found the answers I needed to be able to cure myself from anxiety. So, yes, anxiety is treatable and no matter how many false dawns you’ve had so far, you don’t have to “just live with it”. I am not going to ramble on about how easy it is and offer you the latest miracle cure; I will leave that to others.

What I do want to offer, is real help, support and advice with anxiety, from someone who went through it and came out the other side; someone who went on to study the subject way beyond my own recovery, so that I could go on to dedicate my life to helping others.

This site was set up to help others find the answers they have been looking for and is packed with free help and advice, that covers my own story of recovery and many different aspects of anxiety, including mental exhaustion, intrusive thoughts, Depersonalisation and social anxiety, so please do take the time to have a good look around. The only products on here are my own books ‘At Last a Life‘ and the follow up ‘At Last a Life and Beyond’, in physical, eBook or audio book form. The purchase of which is totally optional. I don’t place any adverts on the site, turn down every request to place other affiliated products on here and you also won’t see any annoying pop ups asking for your email address.

I did not want this to be just another website on anxiety; I wanted it to be the last place anybody would need to visit in search of recovery from anxiety and panic. I also genuinely want to help others. There is no better feeling than changing someone’s life for the better. I also understand, through my own experience, what an awful, lonely place it can be.

Symptoms of Panic and Anxiety Attacks

  • Lack of emotion
  • Difficulty breathing
  • Headaches/tight band around your head
  • Lack of sleep and feeling constantly tired
  • Difficulty swallowing
  • Loss of interest in anything
  • Depression
  • Racing heart
  • Disturbing thoughts
  • Constant worrying/feelings of stress
  • Paranoia about what people think
  • Blurred vision
  • Feelings of panic
  • Pins and needles
  • Irritability
  • Constantly anxious
  • Feeling like you are going mad/not with it
  • Feelings of hopelessness
I recognise the above symptoms only too well, as this was a list I wrote down all those years ago describing how I felt. I have heard of many more over the years, but they all stem from the same root cause – Anxiety. Your symptoms may feel unique to you; I know I felt I was the only one to suffer in this way but, rest assured, there are many, many people around the world who suffer in the same way.

INTRODUCTION

Let me introduce myself. My name is Paul David and I suffered from every aspect of the anxiety and panic disorder for 10 years until I reached the point where I thought I could never recover. I would panic whenever I went out and suffered chronic anxiety until I could no longer function properly. I was constantly depressed, had no interest in life.

I suffered with depersonalisation, which brought on feelings of unreality to the point I truly thought I was going mad; worrying and disturbing thoughts raced around all day, making me feel locked in my own mind. I just felt as if I was walking round in a dream while the world passed me by. I lost my job, many friends and, more importantly, it robbed me of my whole personality. What had happened to that once confident person who could enjoy life?

This is when I first went to see a doctor.  I remember that first meeting like it was yesterday, me sitting there talking at 100 miles an hour, thinking “I don’t know what’s wrong with me, but you’re a doctor, just give me my magic pill and I will be on my way.”  All I was told was to go on my way and take it easy.  I did not want to take it easy. I knew there was more to it than that, but if the doctor did not know what was wrong with me, then it must be serious.

This was the start of 10 years of being seen by one doctor after another, one therapist after another, so called experts that just read from a medical manual and taught me nothing at all. In fact, I never even got an explanation of what was wrong with me. I spent more money than I care to remember on so called miracle cures. I tried every anxiety treatment available to me and nothing worked. If only I had known then what I know now, I could have saved myself all those years of suffering.

My own recovery from anxiety came because I refused to give up hope and left no stone unturned in finding a way out of this condition. Some of the information was gathered from different sources and eventually I was able to sort the wheat from the chaff. However most of my recovery came through trial and error, combined with my own insights and aha moments. Once I truly understood this condition, I was then able to fully recover and become the person I am today. It was after my recovery that I decided I wanted to dedicate my life to helping others and this led to me studying in depth the whole subject of anxiety and panic, as I wanted to give the best information I could so as to help others.

Trust me when I say that everyone can recover, once they have received the right help, support and information. I have spoken with many sufferers of anxiety around the world and far too many of them spent years like me going around in circles unable to find any answers to how they felt. As in my case, they feel the medical profession has failed them. This is why I built the site and wrote a book on the subject, so that I could finally give these answers that people so crave.

Understanding Anxiety

The main mistake people make is they make it their daily aim to get better. We all want to be better today, not tomorrow. That is why we go from one treatment to another, desperate for something to make this awful thing go away. The truth is there is no overnight miracle cure to overcome anxiety and if anyone promises you this, then I would advise you to run the other way. If there were, we would all know about it and someone would be very rich. When I was told this for the first time, it was such a relief to me because I thought that I had to keep searching for that elusive cure that would make me feel better instantly.

Once on the right road and when you not only realise why you feel the way you do, but also what is keeping you in the cycle of anxiety and panic, things will become a lot easier. One of the main stumbling blocks that people are completely unaware of is that there is no outside force doing this to you. The truth is that we are responsible for creating the anxiety and through a lack of knowledge and understanding, we then keep re-creating the anxiety and hence we get in a cycle.

The key here is not to aim to get rid of anxiety or organise your life trying not to feel it, like most people do. This is completely counterproductive and why people stay in the same cycle for years. The truth is, you cannot be free of what you refuse to feel. Most people spend their time trying not to feel this anxious energy within, the energy that they have created through stress and worry. They may go to their doctor for medication, visit numerous therapists, try meditation, go to gurus, change diets, practice techniques, repeat affirmations, avoid going places, spend all day in their head trying to figure out a solution, read numerous books, spend all day searching on the net.

The list is endless to what people do in order to try and either get rid of anxiety or attempt not to feel it. Their whole day can be consumed by this constant battle to not feel this anxious energy, not knowing that everything they try, can only at best manage it. What they have done is completely misunderstood how to recover and done the opposite of what they should of done.

When you feel anxious, this is your bodies way of trying to release this anxious energy stored within, it doesn’t want this anxious energy within as much as you, so it attempts to release it. But people refuse to allow this process to happen as it feels uncomfortable and so then do all that I mentioned above to try and suppress it, they will do anything to try not to feel it. All that happens when you suppress it, is it goes nowhere and so the body will keep trying to release it and why it keeps coming back, it has to, so you can be free of it. But you don’t understand this and so continue to battle with it, suppress it, avoid going anywhere that might trigger it. Not realising that this is the most counterproductive thing you could do and why you continue to feel anxious.

It was only when I had a far better understanding of my anxiety and what was keeping me in the loop that I realised I had been doing everything wrong, everything I was doing was just adding to my feelings of anxiety. I was also spending every day questioning how I felt, thrashing my mind, because I just did not understand why I felt like I did, and having no idea how to make myself feel better. Every day just seemed like a daily battle with myself and it was this battle in my attempts to get better that actually made me feel worse.

When we don’t understand why we feel like we do, we have nothing left to do but to try and figure it all out ourselves, the way we feel becomes our new problem. This is the reason we feel unable to detach ourselves from our thoughts and how we feel; the constant thinking eventually exhausts our mind and is the reason we feel so emotionally spent, detached from our surroundings and so mentally worn out.

The knowledge I gained through and beyond my recovery made me want to share what I know and stop others suffering through lack of understanding and incorrect information. This is why I set up this site and went on to write a book on the subject entitled ‘At Last a Life’. The book was recently published in Japan and has been spoken about in Magazines, and mentioned on TV by the world renowned DJ, Nicky Romero, when he shared how it has changed his life. It also appeared in Heathline’s top 10 most influential books on Anxiety. All this has come purely from word of mouth.

The book continues to get very good feedback with many doctors and therapists recommending it to their patients. It was written to give people the answers that so far have eluded them. So many people who have read it say it has changed their life and it is something I am very proud of and many people have written to me sharing their own anxiety success stories. I have also received some lovely emails from many people who have read it, thanking me and also asking me to never stop helping other sufferers. I have attached a couple of these emails below. Both emails are genuine and I have the permission of the sender to publish them.

Dear Paul,

I just would like to take the time to write to say how thankful I am that you took the time to write your book and share your experiences with others, you truly don’t know how much you have turned my life around.

Within the space of a year I had gone from a confident non stoppable girl to an anxious quivering wreck. Everything just got worse – driving on the motorway – the underground  – and anywhere that was not home was spent with days planning the journey, escape route and breathing pattern! Until I was so mentally worn out I just gave up.

I have probably brought every book, CD and herbal remedy on the market with nothing helping. I even thought about counselling and hypnotherapy and then I saw your book on line. All I can say is you simplified it so much and it was as if you were talking about me. It all made sense at last! Everything just slotted into place. It was the year of stress at work that had taken its toll on me, not the fact I was slowly going mad!

With your help and advice I now go everywhere I used to and do it all normally – not counting trees, trying to breathe, or with the little voice “do I feel ok”? with me wherever I went. I really can’t thank you enough – I was on the verge of house bound before I read your book, but now I feel I have my life back.

Thanks again and good luck with the book!

Shelly

Hey Paul

Your book has been amazing a life saver. I brought it about 8 years ago and it has helped me so much I can’t explain. I’ve had three children since then and never got the chance to say thank you so much for giving us all this information all your time and efforts put into this book it is unbelievable I’ve never had to look at any other book website or even have therapy. well done you should be extremely. you are a real hero helping people live a normal life. I’m actually starting a clothing line called that has slogans such as ‘breaking the cycle’, as I think people should be more aware of just getting on with their days.

Thanks again

Shah 

I chose the title “AT LAST A LIFE” as it summed up recovery for me, because I finally had my life back. Not only did I want it to give others a full understanding of anxiety and panic, but also to help them understand why they feel like they do and what is keeping them in the cycle. I also wanted it to come from someone who had been actually been through it and who could relate to how you are feeling. If anyone asks me what the most important thing is in reaching recovery, I say ‘understanding’. Understanding what is wrong with you is so important. It takes away so much fear out of how you feel and fear of your condition is the very thing that keeps it alive.

The main reason people continue to suffer is because they are bewildered and don’t understand why they feel like they do and so then begin to battle with how they feel. This in turn then further stresses them and has them living inside their own head looking for answers, which just tires them out mentally and causes more problems.

Recovery from anxiety is within everyone

The way to overcome anxiety is through knowledge, not through a pill or some miracle cure you may read about somewhere. Fear is the main reason anxiety symptoms persist. If you visit any forum on the subject, 90% of questions are fear based. Why do I feel like I do? Am I seriously ill? Will these feelings ever go away? The list goes on and this is why it pains me to see that there is so very little good information on a subject that so many people suffer from.

These people can never hope to recover in their present state because every day is filled with fear; they are trying to think and fight their way out of how they feel. When they hit one brick wall after another, they become more bewildered than ever. Until we can bring more awareness to the subject, I feel we will still get forums and doctors surgeries full of people crying out for help and so much needless suffering through lack of information will continue.

‘At Last a Life’ is not a book about breathing exercises or the latest medication; it is my story of recovery from 10 years of suffering from anxiety and panic. I am constantly updating it so as to include all the symptoms that people fear the most: the feelings of unreality; the worrying and disturbing thoughts; feelings of depression and panic; the over active racing mind and many more common symptoms. The first thing people say after reading it is that, for once, someone has finally explained why they feel like they do and made it so easy to understand.

This is exactly what I wanted to do; I wanted people to have the answers that I craved all those years ago. I felt like screaming out “When will somebody finally tell me what is wrong with me?” This was always the problem; nobody ever could. One of the main aims of the book is to tell people why they feel like they do, so their whole day is not filled with fear and worry of their condition – as this is the very thing that keeps people in the cycle. If you fear something, it is bound to dominate your day. If you don’t understand something, you are going to go around in circles, constantly thinking and worrying about your symptoms and how you feel.

Although the book contains far more information than there is on the site, I have tried to add many pages that you may find interesting. ‘At Last a Life’ has had tremendous reviews and excellent feedback, but the purchase of the book is totally optional, so please do take the time to look around my site. Why not visit the Anxiety Question & Answers page where I answer the most common questions I have been asked over the years. Anxiety Tips and Anxiety Explained  pages will also give you more help and understanding or why not read my list of helpful anxiety quotes.

I do hope you enjoy my site. I dedicate it to all sufferers of anxiety and panic in the hope that in some way it helps give some answers to your symptoms and the way you feel.

If you would like more information on the book and its contents then please visit My Book. You can purchase the book in physical or e-book form with any debit, credit card or PayPal account, using a secure on-line payment by clicking on the book image below. The other 2 options are here on eBay or on Amazon, including in kindle form, this also gives you a chance to see the excellent feedback the book has received. The book is also now available as an Audio book via download or C.D set from this website only.

Overseas customers are always welcome and delivery is usually around 10-14 days.