Panic Disorder, General Anxiety Disorder and Social Anxiety
The most common anxiety disorders are explained below
We can all experience anxiety at some point in our lives, worrying about certain things is only natural. Anxiety can occur when we constantly worry, maybe over a period of months, never giving our body and mind a rest. This in turn can then bring on constant feelings of anxiety for no real reason, creating more problems than the very thing we were first worrying about.
An anxiety disorder may lead to social isolation. It may also impair a person’s ability to work and do routine activities. It can also cause people to have trouble sleeping and create feelings of constant fatigue. There are also many emotional problems to cope with: depression, constant worry, a racing mind and feelings of unreality and detachment. It is at this point most people reach breaking point and seek help. If not properly treated, the sufferer can get caught in a cycle that can then last for years.
Below are three of the most common forms of anxiety: social anxiety, panic disorder and general anxiety disorder. These are just TITLES and no matter which form you may suffer from, don’t be discouraged, you can recover from then all.
People who suffer with panic disorders can suffer severe attacks of panic which may make them feel like they are having a heart attack or are going crazy for no apparent reason. The need to run away or escape from the situation they are in is very strong. Symptoms can include a racing heart, sweating, trembling, feelings of dread, a fear of dying, fear of losing control and feelings of unreality. Panic disorder can often lead to people being afraid of having a panic attack in a place from which escape would be difficult, so they end up avoiding these places. In some cases, this can lead to a fear of leaving the home altogether, constantly cancelling on people and making excuses not to go out.
Over the years I have studied panic attacks, which I prefer to call energy surges, as that is truly what they are and do cover the subject in depth in my book.
I myself suffered mild panic attacks that disrupted my life, but not really to the point where I felt I had to run away from situations or places, although when I was going through recovery, I did have my first full blown panic attack. As I had more knowledge at that time, I knew how to cope with this situation if it ever occurred.
The full account of that day is in my book, but I had learned to stay relaxed in my attitude and to tell myself that nothing bad was going to happen to me and that the feeling I was experiencing was just adrenalin, a surge of energy that ultimately could do me no harm. This energy was all stored up within me due to months of over worrying, I also realised that the outside was not the real cause of my fears, it was just the trigger to release this excess energy that I had created within me. Like when a volcano creates and stores up too much energy, it needs to release it, once it releases this energy, it then goes back to calm.
In saying that, my body’s instinct was to run away that day, as it automatically thought I was in danger. But I just allowed the feeling of panic/energy to be there and did not try and control or stop this surge in any way, realising that, although it felt uncomfortable, nothing bad could happen to me. This fight or flight system is within everyone, so it could never lead to anything more than feeling uncomfortable. So, I knew I would be fine and that there was no reason to run away or escape anything. On the other hand, if I had given in to the feelings to run away that day, I would have spent the rest of my days fearing another attack, avoiding more places and watching my life become more and more restricted. The natural reaction to escape the situation that day was very strong, but I stayed calm in my attitude while this energy surged through me, and within a short space of time, the feeling of panic subsided and I was just left with mild anxiety. I had seen it through without feeding it with any more adrenalin. I had added no more fear to the situation. By letting it be there and by not trying to control or stop it, I had shown it that I was not at the mercy of these feelings and to be free of this energy, I had to allow myself to feel it. I realised there was no quick fix, no magic pill, to be free of fear, I had to release this energy, whilst no longer avoiding the triggers that created this surge.
Two deeper insights truly helped me that day. One was that there was no real danger where I was; it was a false alarm and I had to treat it as such. I likened it to when I was at school and the alarm would sound. The teacher would say ‘Don’t worry children, it’s just a false alarm’, and as I did not need to escape then, neither did I here. By doing this I would teach my mind I was fine and did not need its protection and the minds language always comes through your actions, when you stop avoiding, it soon learns that you no longer need its over bearing protection, once the stored up energy is released and you no longer spending your life avoiding these triggers, watch how things change.
The second one was that I realised in every person there is the fear response and that whoever or what you believe created us, this response is normal and natural and serves a very healthy purpose, which is to keep us safe from real danger. So, if this response is normal, then even though it felt scary (which is what it’s supposed to feel like) it had to be harmless. Our creator would not be so cruel as to make it otherwise. This helped me to be able to stay where I was and see any energy surge through, and when I did, on the other side of panic there was nothing, just peace. Nothing ever happened, I did not go mad or crazy or end up with a heart attack. There truly was nothing to fear only fear itself. It just seemed like one big trick to me after that.
That day I knew there was a good chance I would never have another full blown panic attack, and that even if I did, I could cope with it. I knew this because I did not fear another one coming and this is the very thing panic feeds on – FEAR. If you really think about it, it is not the place you fear, it is the fear of how you will feel in that place that you are scared of.
I took this fear away that day. It did not matter where I found myself, I had coped with myself and not the place and that’s why I was able to not enter the cycle of ‘fear/panic/fear/panic’ that many people find themselves in.
Like I say, in my case I had only one full-blown attack, a fear that totally overwhelmed me. I really believe if I had not known what I did at the time, I would have fallen into a cycle of fearing another attack and watching my body for the first signs of another one coming. I have met and spoken to many people whose lives are dominated by panic attacks, but many of these people have been able to go on to recovery. It is sometimes not easy to break a cycle and we may have to feel fear a few times to find peace but, trust me, with understanding and a little courage, you can recover.
Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD)
GAD can occur with excessive, unrealistic worry over a long period of time without a break. The anxiety may focus on external issues such as health, marriage, money, career or any of the other worries the modern world can present us with. In addition to chronic worry, GAD symptoms include trembling, muscular aches, insomnia, depression, feelings of unreality and irritability.
Generalized anxiety usually does not cause people to avoid situations to the extent that people who suffer from panic disorders do. It’s the constant thinking, the constant dwelling on oneself day in day out, and the inability to shut the mind off that so incapacitates the person.
This is what I mainly suffered from. My symptoms came from worrying constantly about things in my life and then I stayed in the cycle of anxiety by then worrying about my anxiety and panic, basically worrying everyday about the way I felt, until I just felt dreadful all the time, it really was a vicious cycle. I realise now that I could have saved myself from all this suffering far earlier, if I just had an understanding of why I first felt like I did and understood the reason I was in a cycle. I am always saying to people, “don’t keep treating the symptoms of anxiety, you will just spend a life time doing this, you need to cut out the root of what’s causing it, this in turn will then stop the cycle”. So to give you an example; My initial anxiety was created by too much stress and worry, I then constantly worried about my anxiety, the racing mind, my feelings of detachment and so the cycle continued. I would then try and treat the symptoms of the anxiety (that I actually creating) with pills, meditation, counsellors, techniques etc etc and got nowhere. Until I realised that the true answer was to cut out the root and allow myself to feel the way I did, this would stop me constantly worrying about how I felt, it would stop the constant trying to fix it, going over and over it, the very things that were keeping me in the cycle of suffering. Yes, to allow myself to feel the way I did would be uncomfortable for a while, but the cycle would be broken and my mind and body would heal itself.
Social Anxiety Disorder (SAD)
(SAD) is a form of anxiety created from a fear of what other people may think; a fear of being judged. Sufferers find it hard to cope in social situations, they become easily embarrassed, going beyond just shyness. They have little confidence and can be highly sensitive to what others think about them. This form of anxiety may lead to social isolation and avoidance behaviour. The physical symptoms related to this form of anxiety can include a racing heart, faintness, blushing and excessive sweating.
This form of anxiety can be very upsetting and rule a lot of people’s lives. I myself felt terrible in social situations and constantly worried what others were thinking of me, as I always felt disengaged from the world and others. I would avoid talking to people as much as possible, which just made the problem worse.
What I did, I mainly taught myself.
I just told myself not to care how I came across in front of others. If I came across as strange, then so be it. If my mind went frantic in the presence of others then fine. I truly understood that people were not the problem, my mind’s reaction was.
This is what I had to change, the answer was not to be found in constantly avoiding others, thinking they were the problem; I had to teach my mind this obvious fact by no longer running away. Avoidance just taught it that its current reaction was correct and needed. It felt strange at first accepting feeling odd in front of people and going against the pull to escape, but I did it, and once I did this, then the reaction calmed and social interaction came far easier. I was teaching my mind that there was no danger here, that I was fine and that it could turn off its protection system. I also stopped feeling like two people, one trying to hold a conversation and the other watching myself and my reactions. This in turn allowed me to feel more involved in the conversation.
This is a very good example of changing a habit. A lot of anxiety is habit, habits that need to be reversed. I had avoided situations for so long that this avoidance had become me. I reversed this by ignoring what my mind was telling me to do and just went forward anyway. In time, this then became my new habit. It became less strange and easier to put myself in social situations and with a better understanding, I was able to overcome my social anxiety. I had gone through my fears, faced the bogey man head on and finally achieved something. This realisation helped me with so many other aspects of my anxiety. I realised that I did have some power over the way I felt and I could take some control. Visit here for more help with social anxiety.
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