Well today’s post is again a question that people ask on forums and one question I asked myself over the years.
If we have a cold we know to just lie up in bed and it will take care of itself. For a broken leg we need a pot and realise we have to wait a few weeks before it gets back to normal, nature heals us, we just step out of the way and let it happen. If we cut ourselves, we put a plaster on and let our body take over the healing process. The list really is endless to how nature heals us and as we know the procedure we don’t concern ourself’s too much and trust in our bodies own healing powers to bring us through.
The same is true with anxiety, if we step out of the way and let nature heal us, it will. But we don’t step out of the way, we jump in and try and heal it ourselves, we try to fight, stress and worry ourselves better and of course, this has the opposite effect and we get worse. It is like someone going out for a run to heal a broken leg, completely pointless and counterproductive.
This would be the conversation with someone who understands their condition and someone who does not. Firstly the person with little to no insight into the way they feel.
“So what have you done today”?
“Well, I woke up and felt sorry for myself as the damn thing was still there. I spent my day worrying about how I was feeling, I got frustrated and spent my whole day trying to do something about it”
“How do you feel”?
“Emotionally and physically drained and more confused than ever, I just seem to be getting worse”
The second person who understood their condition would go something like this
“What have you done today”
“Anxiety wise, nothing at all, I just got on with my day and gave my mind and body a rest, I also understand why I feel like I do and it does not hold the same fear, I just see it more as a feeling that will pass when left alone, so don’t feel the need to do anything about it”
I was the first person and then in time turned into the second person. There is nothing special about anyone who recovers, it just comes through understanding the condition and what is keeping you in the cycle. Knowledge really is power when it comes to recovering from anxiety.
The main thing to understand is that we are reversing something that did not come overnight and so recovery takes time, there is no one answer or saying that will make it disappear instantly. All I want people to do is understand more and not demand anything of themselves, you can’t force normal feeling, you have to let it come to you, which it will in time.
If I had one thing that really brought me home, it was the lack of demanding anything or trying to rush my recovery, I just went with it, however I felt at any particular time, took all setbacks on the chin and just became happy with the progress I had made. I never tried to scramble back to the person I used to be, this is a mistake some people make they think they have to feel perfect, even demand it of themselves which again leads to them fighting their condition.
Hopefully, there is something there for everyone. Also please do feel free to keep the positive post below going, I feel it really helps hearing good news and brings a lot of positives to the table.