Comments on: What keeps us in the cycle of anxiety?

By: PT

PT — Mon, 26 Mar 2012 19:34:11 +0000

Hello everyone, I am new to this and is in hope to find some answers. I’ve been having symptoms for a year and no doctor could figure out what I have. I’ve had tons of tests done and all came out negitive except for one which really bugs me but the doctors believes its nothing. Everyone tells me I have anxiety but my problem is that I don’t believe it because it’s my own body and I truely believe something is wrong with me… It’s not the usual racing heart or numbness but other things like leg pressure and pain… There’s also clicking noises at the bottom of my skull and many more… Does anxiety cause all of this? I keep telling myself something is seriously wrong but doctors, family and friends just brush me off. I believe I have something wrong with me and if no one helps me I will get worst and it will be too late. Any response will be very appriciated thank you god bless

By: Nicole

Nicole — Mon, 30 Mar 2009 10:59:54 +0000

Hi Lorry T and Candie,
I am in Canada but occasionally there are similar stories in the paper here and just recently I read on my yoga teachers’ blog that one of her students took her own life. This used to be something that really scared me and to tell the truth it is still a kick in the stomach when I hear of such things. But I remind myself that it is difficult for everyone to hear not just people with anxiety. It is okay to feel sad and I am allowing myself to feel that and then move on with my life. Worrying about it won’t help. I also remind myself that this is not the only time that I will be confronted with news of this sort so it is an opportunity to deal with it in the right way. There is a temptation to try and work it out, reassure myself that I wouldn’t do that…. but as you said Candie, your faith in yourself builds on the road to recovery and I am truly feeling this, so the need to analyze every emotion is fading.
Staying off the blog has helped too. I was too reliant on it, as much as it has helped, I needed to think of other things.
Hey Scarlet, I picked up a book you recommended a while back – “Stop worrying and start living”. It’s a good read, and interesting to see that through time, much of the advice on recovery has always been similar, even Eckhart Tolle’s popular work echoes what Claire Weekes was saying 50 years ago – that we have to start witnessing our emotions and stay in the moment. Sounds so easy doesn’t it! Off to start the day, have a good one all! Nicole

By: xxRachxx

xxRachxx — Sun, 23 Nov 2008 04:09:56 +0000

hiya

im pretty new to this blog althou i have been reading the site for the last few months.i realise this blog is pretty dated now but everything u guys are talking about is everything im going thru at the min,im finding it VERY difficult to break the anxious though cycle. my anxiety started at 16 althou at that time i didnt know what it was and even went to the hospital begging them to sign me in because the thoughts were that bad,thankfully i got thru it within 4 weeks i was back to normal and althou i have had the ocassional intrusive thought over the last 6 years ive managed to brush it off.this bout of anxiety reared its head in september the only thing i can pinpoint is a miscarridge i had it just went from there,ive gotta say im feeling alot better than i did 2months ago and theres days when i feel im on the road to recovery and belive i can and will get better but theres also days when the thoughts come and i cant brush them off i think isit really worth going thru this everyday? then i dout that i wont act on the thoughts,just wondered if this is normal on the road to recovery beign as it went on its own before im finding it hard to relate to the feelings of recovery .if that makes sense.i hope it does and sorry for rambling on

take care everyone xxxx

By: candie

candie — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 12:20:55 +0000

Hi Kamini and Lisa

Your welcome i like to come on here and help people, as it was me on here all bewildered back in march when so many kind people helped me! So i think its important for me to stick around and show people you can recover! I know im getting there, as i have gone from terrified of symptoms.. to realising they really are just adrenalin and anxiety… to being fairly bored of them!

My email adress for facebook is candielovescandie@hotmail.co.uk , add me

By: Lisa

Lisa — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 08:01:06 +0000

Thanks Candie, I asked the question on another forum and it was suggested that maybe I got to relaxed and that scared me, it makes sense kinda cos for the rest of the day I was afraid to sit down! probably my body is so used to being tense it came as a shock lol

By: Kamini

Kamini — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 07:27:09 +0000

Thanks Candie. I knew you would reply me. U r so generous, just like Paul. U r always there to reply the others. Well I am keeping acceptance in practice. Week end was really worst for me. I had the worst setback. But I am taking it positive. It means i am on the right direction.

Anywayz thanks again Candie. And are you in facebook?

By: James

James — Sun, 28 Sep 2008 19:08:19 +0000

thanks for the reply candie, u mention about the gradual recovery which i now realise. The problem i had when the anxiety started is that, as i am getting married in 10 weeks, i was saying that i must be ready for my wedding, which i now know is unhealthy as it adds pressure. In living by the day i have started to make progress but as i push my boundaries further i become more physically tired which leads to mental tiredness at which point the doubts start to creep in, which is normal and, as i now realise, all part of the healing process.

By: Candie

Candie — Sun, 28 Sep 2008 18:50:26 +0000

Hi LorryT, iv’e read the story your on about in the paper, its awful isn’t it. The man that did it was suffering from depression i read, a bit like the story about that man who jumped of a balcony on holiday with his kids. Some would call it a selfish act of love, some would say he was mad.

James, this blog is here for to help people, so dont be frightened to post how you feel! I know i have come here in the earlier stages of my recovery and posted a few desperate messages. As Paul said he wanted this website to be the last place anyone with anxiety had to go for answers. It is fine to seek some reassurance, aslong as you remember recovery is about beleiving in yourself too. It is a learning experience, confidence builds slowly- thats why it can take coming through bad periods of anxiety for us to see there is no real threat. I know after iv had a bad week i always come through thinking- yet again nothing bad ever happened. Anxiety reared its ugly head earlier today… so i thought whatever, this is boring now… nothing bad is going to happen, it didn’t and it never will. I feel great now and havn’t give my little episode a second thought.

I have come to a stage now where i really am bored with what anxiety throws at me, its like… oh you again, get on with it then so i can see yet again how nothing bad is going to happen…. i call its bluff everytime and nothing bad ever happens. Infact, after reading what iv put- i think i have bigger problems- talking about anxiety asif it is a person! haha

By: James

James — Sun, 28 Sep 2008 17:24:55 +0000

Paul, i would just like to apologise for my last, slightly desperate post. By making posts like this i am just keeping myself in the cycle. Its odd, i sometimes have a blip and look for reassurance. However, as you say, reasssurance ultimately must come from within. I remember someone once said to me that the hardest person in the world to live with is yourself and once you master that then life will become more clear. I now know how they felt. I have made great strides through this site as well as the teachings of another recovered anxiety sufferer. It is these people, like yourself, who can teach me the most. In addition, by just reading existing posts i can get answers to my concerns, my obsessive thoughts, habits. Thanks for putting a common sense approach forward and also explaining recovery,

By: James

James — Sun, 28 Sep 2008 15:38:30 +0000

I would appreciate some clarification on the following, my doctor says i have anxiety and having used the info on this site and other resources i am feeling much better than 10 weeks ago. However, some days i still feel like i do not want to get back fully to the cut and thrust of normal life. Is this because my anxiety is getting worse, or am i having a mental/nervous breakdown or is this the norm. Paul i am sure you may be able to appreciate where i am coming from. I think in a nutshell i am worried that having made great progress, i dont want to suffer a major relapse. Cheers