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By: Tracey

Tracey — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 07:40:13 +0000

Hi,

I’m new to this. Had anxiety for 2 1/2 years. What a battle, some days horrendous, some days feel i’m moving forward, but it never lasts long.
Helpful reading that others feel this.

By: JR

JR — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 16:43:57 +0000

Sometimes its hard to accept setbacks. I know when that they came, you honestly feel like that you’re at square one, you’re mind is telling you that and sometimes a cry is a good release. To me sometimes I want to fight it so much, just letting yourself cry really signifies letting go to me. (Because i would try to man and hold it in : )

I’m not saying that frantacally cry, sometimes tears don’t even come out. Recovery is so up and down…just let it unfold in front of you.

By: Katy

Katy — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 19:17:39 +0000

Hi Brian & Nicole

i really struggle with the accepting, some days its easy but others i know i am just putting up with. its really hard to accept something that you hate. Hate is a strong word but i do really hate this this thing that has messed with my life, therefore how can I accept it?I find it easier to say im letting it be there and to carry on with my life if its there or not. Before i found this site and Pauls book i did go really down and feel sorry for myself whenever i had a setback, but now i am learning to accept it as just a bad day, just like everyone has bad days and good days or even weeks. I think you are truly recovered when none of the feeling,thoughts bother you no matter when they come, good days or bad, and to reach that point it takes time, practice and patience. At least thanks to this site we dont have to suffer alone through this journey. sorry about my grammar, am in bit of a hurry tonight! hope ive made sense. Take care x

By: No More Anxiety

No More Anxiety — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 11:02:22 +0000

Nicole don’t worry about having the episode you had, memory of suffering is so close we can have these episodes, I know I did, but I always came through so in time I just used to shrug my shoulders. Its just the same as anyone who is coming through a bout of depression, it does not mean they will not feel depressed again, but it passes and comes less often. The main thing is if you felt like it was dragging you down again and the attention seemed to be on you then let it, its fine, just don’t go down the road of self pity or try to control how you feel, let it have its moment and it will pass, don’t get down about it, atart questioning everything all over again.

Paul

By: Nicole

Nicole — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 12:00:33 +0000

Hi Brian and Katy,
I can relate. Just in the last few weeks I have been feeling about 80% and have felt a new level of acceptance that I have never felt. But just yesterday, out of the blue I started to obsess again, monitor my moods, over think every thought etc. and last night was one of those sleepless nights when my mind just feels like it is swimming in fear and other negative emotions that were very intense. I would be lying if I said that I was not a little upset and fearful even though deep down I know there is nothing to fear. I know that I am again caught in this trap of “trying” to accept. That is what makes this so frustrating; when you know that you are going about this the wrong way but can’t seem to stop it.
The only logical thing to do is just put last night down as a blip on the anxiety map so to speak and move ahead even though I am feeling like crap today! I am going to choose to view this as an opportunity and to put into practice everything that I have learned. Only trouble is that sometimes we try too hard I guess. It is such an intangible thing and feels so far away at times.
Not much else I can do as the past is the past and life lies ahead. Worrying about it is not helping and reading these posts always does. Thanks everyone.

By: brian

brian — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 18:38:54 +0000

hey thanks katy, that really helps. I’ve been telling myself over and over what you wrote but to have someone else tell me that is very reassuring. i am now definitely getting back into the acceptance mindset and it feels good.

By: Katy

Katy — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 15:07:27 +0000

Hi Brian

I recently suffered a setback,after thinking I had finally cracked it. Its really frustrating and so upsetting just when you think you may have recovered. But you have accept it is a setback, you got through these feelings before and you will again.

By: brian

brian — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 05:41:30 +0000

Hi all,

I have never posted before but have followed this blog for about 5 months. I couldnt believe how amazing this site was when i first discovered it. Everything started coming together for me and for about 3 1/2 months I really felt like i had this acceptance thing down. I was just making so much progress. Then about 4 weeks ago I think I had a really bad setback. I just remember feeling horrible, getting into the worst mood while iI was with friends and my mind was just spinning.
Ever since then i feel like i have been going backwards. after so much time of accepting, i never thought that any feeling would bother me again, but for the last 4 weeks i just havent felt like i did those first 3 months or so and its really bothering me. i just dont understand how i can accept for so long and then suddenly start obsessing how i feel. If anyone has ever gone through something like this I would love any advice or thoughts. Thank you all.

By: jo

jo — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 18:50:39 +0000

Hi all
Thankyou for all your good wishes.
Things are really looking up at the mo, married life is fab, since our wedding day my anxiety, has seemed to get less and less, I think ive finally got everything paul has taught, now when I have a strange or scary thought I just say whatever, and it just goes away.
Just reading throught what you’ve all been saying and wanted to say to lorry that you are doing really well, when I look back at how we all where a few months ago, its amazing how far we’ve all come, Candie, I think you are amazing to have come off your meds, Im still on mine and havent quite got to the stage of coming off them yet, but I hope to one day.

By: No More Anxiety

No More Anxiety — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 14:17:59 +0000

On your post Nicole, having that mental space is important and really helped me. I used to have some Paul time and changed my whole lifestyle and not to hope my anxiety went away, I did it for me. I used to run, cycle and swim and felt great for it. It helped burn off excess adrenalin, gave me a new focus instead of how I felt and as you say gave me a break. It introduced so much more into my life and I just naturally began to feel part of the world again, my focus was shifting back into living. It was a natural progression, so don’t expect too much too soon. Never try and make it your aim to rid yourself of how you feel, time will do this on its own, as long as we don’t constantly try and ‘Do something about it’ just live along side it, while getting on with your day. I used to keep a little note in my wallet that said ‘Its o.k to feel like this’ I never used to preach it to myself, it was just there if I ever needed to remind myself. And once you say this statement then you wont fight, fill yourself with self pity, try and work it all out, watch your progress, etc…etc….