Comments on: A random post about me! http://anxietynomore.co.uk/blog/2008/02/18/16/ Anxiety no more Helping sufferers overcome anxiety and panic issues Thu, 17 May 2012 16:05:53 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Shirley D. http://anxietynomore.co.uk/blog/2008/02/18/16/#comment-267 Shirley D. Tue, 04 Mar 2008 12:22:30 +0000 http://anxietynomore.co.uk/blog/?p=16#comment-267 I am like a woman posessed! now the book has arrived it is by my side constantly, it is my bible. It's suprising just how one sentence read can calm your insides. Yesterday was a real bad morning. too little sleep again, even got to the stage where my partner had to come on my walk as i had threatened to jump into the river and not return. By the time i had eaten my bowl of Ready Brek it had all changed (mind you this was mid afternoon) by the evening I was changing beds and hoovering. The mind is so fickle. Yesterday evening I was taking down notes from the book like an avid student, I would like to get some of the more calming and soothing sentences stuck to the wall just so it's there before my eyes - Acceptance. I have even thought about getting some luminous paint so that I can read them in the dark - because that is the worst time. The dark and no one to talk to or rather you don't want to wake anyone else up. You may think that this blog is a bit flippant and rather strange but this is my message, I am feelings lots better and it's all due to being able to concentrate on the book and actually take in the words, the first time of reading I had both the blurry vision and the blurry brain and just ended up skimming the pages, nothing sunk in. The second time of reading (almost next day) and it has started to sink in. The reason the book is so good is that there isn't too much ramble, the same solutions are issued over and over again but in different explanations and the final message that comes across is acceptance. Accept the panic/anxiety and it's a reverse psychology, never knew it could be so simple.We try to teach this to our naughty children - (why don't we teach it more to ourselves) That and the fact that I have banged on about this website so much to my family that they have finally started to understand and they have finally realised that they can't push me to get better. The site is full of good hard facts. I am like a woman posessed! now the book has arrived it is by my side constantly, it is my bible. It’s suprising just how one sentence read can calm your insides.
Yesterday was a real bad morning. too little sleep again, even got to the stage where my partner had to come on my walk as i had threatened to jump into the river and not return. By the time i had eaten my bowl of Ready Brek it had all changed (mind you this was mid afternoon) by the evening I was changing beds and hoovering. The mind is so fickle.
Yesterday evening I was taking down notes from the book like an avid student, I would like to get some of the more calming and soothing sentences stuck to the wall just so it’s there before my eyes – Acceptance.
I have even thought about getting some luminous paint so that I can read them in the dark – because that is the worst time. The dark and no one to talk to or rather you don’t want to wake anyone else up.
You may think that this blog is a bit flippant and rather strange but this is my message, I am feelings lots better and it’s all due to being able to concentrate on the book and actually take in the words, the first time of reading I had both the blurry vision and the blurry brain and just ended up skimming the pages, nothing sunk in. The second time of reading (almost next day) and it has started to sink in. The reason the book is so good is that there isn’t too much ramble, the same solutions are issued over and over again but in different explanations and the final message that comes across is acceptance. Accept the panic/anxiety and it’s a reverse psychology, never knew it could be so simple.We try to teach this to our naughty children – (why don’t we teach it more to ourselves) That and the fact that I have banged on about this website so much to my family that they have finally started to understand and they have finally realised that they can’t push me to get better. The site is full of good hard facts.

]]> By: No More Anxiety http://anxietynomore.co.uk/blog/2008/02/18/16/#comment-252 No More Anxiety Mon, 03 Mar 2008 17:48:34 +0000 http://anxietynomore.co.uk/blog/?p=16#comment-252 My pleasure Sandra. I found before I built my site that there were two types of websites about anxiety. One that just tried to sell you the latest miracle cure and others filled with articles, adverts and nothing really different. There were one or two that I could relate to but I hoped I could put far more good information out there, something that people could really relate to, hopefully I achieved that. Take care and thanks for posting. Paul My pleasure Sandra. I found before I built my site that there were two types of websites about anxiety. One that just tried to sell you the latest miracle cure and others filled with articles, adverts and nothing really different. There were one or two that I could relate to but I hoped I could put far more good information out there, something that people could really relate to, hopefully I achieved that.

Take care and thanks for posting.

Paul

]]> By: Sandra http://anxietynomore.co.uk/blog/2008/02/18/16/#comment-250 Sandra Mon, 03 Mar 2008 14:59:20 +0000 http://anxietynomore.co.uk/blog/?p=16#comment-250 I just purchased your book. I started reading in on Sunday and finished it today Monday and you have got it so right the emotions, the anxiety and every aspect of the feelings. It has made me feel better just reading it and to find out just how other people are suffering like myself and how we can achieve recovery little by little. I myself have been in and out of websites and it got to the point that it actually made me feel depressed reading some of the articles but when I found your site it uplifted me. I know I am now on the right path and know what I have to do. Thank you so very much for sharing your book with us. Sandra I just purchased your book. I started reading in on Sunday and finished it today Monday and you have got it so right the emotions, the anxiety and every aspect of the feelings. It has made me feel better just reading it and to find out just how other people are suffering like myself and how we can achieve recovery little by little. I myself have been in and out of websites and it got to the point that it actually made me feel depressed reading some of the articles but when I found your site it uplifted me. I know I am now on the right path and know what I have to do. Thank you so very much for sharing your book with us.

Sandra

]]> By: No More Anxiety http://anxietynomore.co.uk/blog/2008/02/18/16/#comment-207 No More Anxiety Tue, 26 Feb 2008 15:03:32 +0000 http://anxietynomore.co.uk/blog/?p=16#comment-207 Hi Samantha, Yes Claire weekes was the first book I ever picked up and she did have an influence on me. I could not really make it work for me and sort of devolped my own theorys through a lot of trial and error and learning how the body and mind function. I always felt once I had worked one thing out, a lot of other things made sense. On the professionals not having heard of Claire weekes. Its funny that because they have to supply their email address when they purchase the book, you would not believe how many actually buy my book, this is people who are charging a fortune for their time, therapists, hypnosis, life coaches etc...etc...Just shows they may actually wake up to the fact they don't really know about the subject. In my opinion you have to go throught it before you can ever begin to try and help people with anxiety. Take care Paul Hi Samantha, Yes Claire weekes was the first book I ever picked up and she did have an influence on me. I could not really make it work for me and sort of devolped my own theorys through a lot of trial and error and learning how the body and mind function. I always felt once I had worked one thing out, a lot of other things made sense.

On the professionals not having heard of Claire weekes. Its funny that because they have to supply their email address when they purchase the book, you would not believe how many actually buy my book, this is people who are charging a fortune for their time, therapists, hypnosis, life coaches etc…etc…Just shows they may actually wake up to the fact they don’t really know about the subject. In my opinion you have to go throught it before you can ever begin to try and help people with anxiety.

Take care

Paul

]]> By: samantha http://anxietynomore.co.uk/blog/2008/02/18/16/#comment-204 samantha Tue, 26 Feb 2008 14:28:54 +0000 http://anxietynomore.co.uk/blog/?p=16#comment-204 hi alittle bit about me , i am 40 yrs old married with 2 teenagers 3 dogs and a cat !!! i first started suffering anxiety in sept 2007 and had to defer my final year of my degree ( psychology and coinselling) i hope to get back to it this sept. i wont go into great detail but it was extreme anxiety i have never felt so bad , however now i am back volunteering , out driving my car etc , i am plodding on i am very hard on myself thinking i should be able to do more but those around me tell me i am doing great so i have to belive them . paul your book was a godsend when i was able to accept i was suffering with anxiety ( i refused to beleive it was anxiety) thought i was going mad!!! your book is very much of the claire weekes method and beleive this none of the professionals i have come into contact with have heard of claire weekes thanks again for the book when i started accepting it was anxiety i started to read your book samantha xxx hi
alittle bit about me , i am 40 yrs old married with 2 teenagers 3 dogs and a cat !!!

i first started suffering anxiety in sept 2007 and had to defer my final year of my degree ( psychology and coinselling) i hope to get back to it this sept. i wont go into great detail but it was extreme anxiety i have never felt so bad , however now i am back volunteering , out driving my car etc , i am plodding on i am very hard on myself thinking i should be able to do more but those around me tell me i am doing great so i have to belive them . paul your book was a godsend when i was able to accept i was suffering with anxiety ( i refused to beleive it was anxiety) thought i was going mad!!! your book is very much of the claire weekes method and beleive this none of the professionals i have come into contact with have heard of claire weekes

thanks again for the book when i started accepting it was anxiety i started to read your book

samantha xxx

]]> By: Shirley Dalley http://anxietynomore.co.uk/blog/2008/02/18/16/#comment-184 Shirley Dalley Sun, 24 Feb 2008 12:14:24 +0000 http://anxietynomore.co.uk/blog/?p=16#comment-184 Today is Sunday, dull but warm. I have woken up at a decent time not my usual 4.30am, maybe even had a good few hours solid sleep, not sure. I have had this infliction for 6 months now, unemployed but trying to get a job. I need a nice job to get my confidence back.Then hopefully the road to recovery.Today, I seem to be minus some of my symptoms - surely that's not right? Where are they?I feel odd without them. I moved back home to my parents (after my second failed marriage) 12 months ago at the age of 47, changed my former life of 27yrs, had a minor car accident in July 2007. Packed in a full time job (due to a persons bad attitude). I pay a tiny rent for my room, what if I had a mortgage? How would I manage - stress, stress, stress!!! The words just make my mind whirl!! I ramble in my conversation,sometimes don't even know whether I got up this morning. What a terrible thing this does to you. Normally sane - normally happy - now like an unsmiling zombie. I like the sunshine - i appreciate it more now. My counsellor says that I must reward myself for any positive thought. I think from this weekend I may be rewarding myself more often. Lets hope so. When I need reassurance i immediately turn to this website - it is the greatest and when i read the contacts list I know I am so much better off than others - all different stages of the infliction.In life in general I know I am so much better off than others, especially my young friends who aren't around in this life any more. At least I am alive - to what degree sometimes I question.This site is my reading therapy. Thank you for taking the time Today is Sunday, dull but warm. I have woken up at a decent time not my usual 4.30am, maybe even had a good few hours solid sleep, not sure. I have had this infliction for 6 months now, unemployed but trying to get a job. I need a nice job to get my confidence back.Then hopefully the road to recovery.Today, I seem to be minus some of my symptoms – surely that’s not right? Where are they?I feel odd without them.
I moved back home to my parents (after my second failed marriage) 12 months ago at the age of 47, changed my former life of 27yrs, had a minor car accident in July 2007. Packed in a full time job (due to a persons bad attitude). I pay a tiny rent for my room, what if I had a mortgage? How would I manage – stress, stress, stress!!! The words just make my mind whirl!! I ramble in my conversation,sometimes don’t even know whether I got up this morning. What a terrible thing this does to you. Normally sane – normally happy – now like an unsmiling zombie.
I like the sunshine – i appreciate it more now.
My counsellor says that I must reward myself for any positive thought. I think from this weekend I may be rewarding myself more often. Lets hope so.
When I need reassurance i immediately turn to this website – it is the greatest and when i read the contacts list I know I am so much better off than others – all different stages of the infliction.In life in general I know I am so much better off than others, especially my young friends who aren’t around in this life any more. At least I am alive – to what degree sometimes I question.This site is my reading therapy. Thank you for taking the time

]]> By: Rick http://anxietynomore.co.uk/blog/2008/02/18/16/#comment-183 Rick Sun, 24 Feb 2008 07:07:25 +0000 http://anxietynomore.co.uk/blog/?p=16#comment-183 JR Hello I too have also suffered this to a certain extent. My list of stressers and fears could have filled a toilet roll. One that i can relate to you is that my anxiety has never been constant, I have suffered for six years but not constant. Every two years ive had an episode as i call them. This relates to relationship breakdowns. Every time i have come out of a relationship the anxiety seems to come back. The question i have to ask myself is would i stay in a new relationship because im scared of anxiety coming back?? Well NO definately not. no matter how bad don't let anxiety rule anything, it wont help in the long run. And of course that should be the key aim long term to be totally worry free. Im not trying to tell you about relationships, that would be wrong . however i can remember feeling the exact same about a previous partner. Hope this helps Rick JR Hello
I too have also suffered this to a certain extent. My list of stressers and fears could have filled a toilet roll. One that i can relate to you is that my anxiety has never been constant, I have suffered for six years but not constant. Every two years ive had an episode as i call them. This relates to relationship breakdowns. Every time i have come out of a relationship the anxiety seems to come back. The question i have to ask myself is would i stay in a new relationship because im scared of anxiety coming back?? Well NO definately not. no matter how bad don’t let anxiety rule anything, it wont help in the long run. And of course that should be the key aim long term to be totally worry free.
Im not trying to tell you about relationships, that would be wrong . however i can remember feeling the exact same about a previous partner.
Hope this helps
Rick

]]> By: Frank http://anxietynomore.co.uk/blog/2008/02/18/16/#comment-182 Frank Sun, 24 Feb 2008 03:53:05 +0000 http://anxietynomore.co.uk/blog/?p=16#comment-182 Hey all. I'm 20 years old and have been suffering for almost a year now. I consider myself one of the luckiest people here since I discovered this site quite early while I was suffering. Another reason why I find myself lucky is because the advice given here is really helpful and to think that people have suffered through years of this really makes me feel fortunate that my cure is not 10 years away. I would say that the root cause of my anxiety is mainly stress since this was my first year in a University setting. The workload seemed like a dramatic jump from secondary school. The driving force of my anxiety situation is the fear of change. Ever since my close relative became very ill (she's recovered now), I kept thinking that some kind of even will occur in my life and that I'll have to change the way i do things. I was especially afraid of losing the things i enjoy most such as my hobbies and other things. I've made 3 or so visits to the doctor and all 3 times he's given me the all clear and that physically i was as healthy as can be. Regardless, this fear stayed in my mind for quite a while. Finally after stumbling across this site, the advice given seemed genuine and had the most truth to it; unlike other sites that claim that recovery has a set time associated with it. I now see recovery as a journey and when I look back I can only see how much better i have become since this has all started. One of the many things that has helped me with my recovery, other than this site and my family is my religion. I am Christian and i find that visiting church and praying more often is a great way to release your anxiety as you shift your attention to something that is far greater than life itself. Sometimes, I feel that our faith can help us through the rough patches and I encourage people to give their faith a try if trouble comes passing by. As for my personal life, I am a bit younger than most of you people so my hobbies will be a bit different. I enjoy playing video games, watching tv, movies, reading, and sports such as basketball, pool, and cycling. My favourite video games include guitar hero, dance dance revolution, street fighter, kingdom hearts, and the devil may cry series. I enjoy playing these games in a social environment with my friends who share the same passion that i have for these kinds of games. To end this post. I'd like thank Paul for creating this site as I feel it has led me on the right path to recovery. I'd also like to thank each and every member who posts here as it makes my own anxiety condition feel less and less personal and that I'm not the only one suffering from this. I wish everyone the best and that recovery for all of you is just around the corner. Cheers and God Bless. Frank Hey all. I’m 20 years old and have been suffering for almost a year now. I consider myself one of the luckiest people here since I discovered this site quite early while I was suffering. Another reason why I find myself lucky is because the advice given here is really helpful and to think that people have suffered through years of this really makes me feel fortunate that my cure is not 10 years away. I would say that the root cause of my anxiety is mainly stress since this was my first year in a University setting. The workload seemed like a dramatic jump from secondary school.

The driving force of my anxiety situation is the fear of change. Ever since my close relative became very ill (she’s recovered now), I kept thinking that some kind of even will occur in my life and that I’ll have to change the way i do things. I was especially afraid of losing the things i enjoy most such as my hobbies and other things. I’ve made 3 or so visits to the doctor and all 3 times he’s given me the all clear and that physically i was as healthy as can be. Regardless, this fear stayed in my mind for quite a while. Finally after stumbling across this site, the advice given seemed genuine and had the most truth to it; unlike other sites that claim that recovery has a set time associated with it. I now see recovery as a journey and when I look back I can only see how much better i have become since this has all started.

One of the many things that has helped me with my recovery, other than this site and my family is my religion. I am Christian and i find that visiting church and praying more often is a great way to release your anxiety as you shift your attention to something that is far greater than life itself. Sometimes, I feel that our faith can help us through the rough patches and I encourage people to give their faith a try if trouble comes passing by.

As for my personal life, I am a bit younger than most of you people so my hobbies will be a bit different. I enjoy playing video games, watching tv, movies, reading, and sports such as basketball, pool, and cycling.

My favourite video games include guitar hero, dance dance revolution, street fighter, kingdom hearts, and the devil may cry series. I enjoy playing these games in a social environment with my friends who share the same passion that i have for these kinds of games.

To end this post. I’d like thank Paul for creating this site as I feel it has led me on the right path to recovery. I’d also like to thank each and every member who posts here as it makes my own anxiety condition feel less and less personal and that I’m not the only one suffering from this. I wish everyone the best and that recovery for all of you is just around the corner.

Cheers and God Bless.

Frank

]]> By: JR http://anxietynomore.co.uk/blog/2008/02/18/16/#comment-180 JR Sat, 23 Feb 2008 19:16:56 +0000 http://anxietynomore.co.uk/blog/?p=16#comment-180 I wanted to drop a line. I suffer from DP and anxiety for awhile now. I purchased Paul's book and it really makes tons of sense. I'm managed to get a degree and hold a pretty good job with all these feelings. This blog is very nice and I couldn't pass up the chance to mention something that Paul McGowan was mentioning. I dated my wife in high school and then I went to college on my own. It was a real change and we tried to keep our relationship strong. During the year that I was at college basically alone I very stressed and thought about my life and girlfriend a lot wondering if that was what I wanted to do with my life. I wanted to get married to her, but also wanted to be young and "play the field so to speak". She came up to college the next year and things got a little better. Then with all this constant thinking and stress from college I think I started to lose myself, but I was never aware of anxiety or anything along those lines. Looking back to think I really fell into anxiety at the end of high school beginning college. I just remember my whole self kind of changing from the funny person I was before. Anyways, I remember noticing DP one day and it totally freaked me out. I ran to the internet and heard all the horrible stories about it. The next thing I knew I was consumed with this and purchased methods to try to get better. Basically I was able to get through college and my girlfriend stayed with me through it all although I didn't know much about all the increase sexual thoughts and constant thinking part of anxiety. I never was myself and my relationships suffered. I decided to just move on with my life and I was feeling a little better. My girlfriend and I got married and things started getting a little better. Basically I loved her but I didn't know why. I just always felt so empty emotionally. Now I'm starting to really try and get better I feel deep down that if I was 100% I would love my wife to death, but I just have this other side of me that when I look at her I don't feel anything...i guess b/c of DP, sometimes, like most people I know, look so foreign to me. Paul...what do you think? I guess I don't what to do...I kind of scared that when I fully recover I won't love her fully. She is really an angel. I wanted to drop a line. I suffer from DP and anxiety for awhile now. I purchased Paul’s book and it really makes tons of sense. I’m managed to get a degree and hold a pretty good job with all these feelings. This blog is very nice and I couldn’t pass up the chance to mention something that Paul McGowan was mentioning. I dated my wife in high school and then I went to college on my own. It was a real change and we tried to keep our relationship strong. During the year that I was at college basically alone I very stressed and thought about my life and girlfriend a lot wondering if that was what I wanted to do with my life. I wanted to get married to her, but also wanted to be young and “play the field so to speak”. She came up to college the next year and things got a little better. Then with all this constant thinking and stress from college I think I started to lose myself, but I was never aware of anxiety or anything along those lines. Looking back to think I really fell into anxiety at the end of high school beginning college. I just remember my whole self kind of changing from the funny person I was before. Anyways, I remember noticing DP one day and it totally freaked me out. I ran to the internet and heard all the horrible stories about it. The next thing I knew I was consumed with this and purchased methods to try to get better. Basically I was able to get through college and my girlfriend stayed with me through it all although I didn’t know much about all the increase sexual thoughts and constant thinking part of anxiety. I never was myself and my relationships suffered. I decided to just move on with my life and I was feeling a little better. My girlfriend and I got married and things started getting a little better. Basically I loved her but I didn’t know why. I just always felt so empty emotionally. Now I’m starting to really try and get better I feel deep down that if I was 100% I would love my wife to death, but I just have this other side of me that when I look at her I don’t feel anything…i guess b/c of DP, sometimes, like most people I know, look so foreign to me.

Paul…what do you think? I guess I don’t what to do…I kind of scared that when I fully recover I won’t love her fully. She is really an angel.

]]> By: No More Anxiety http://anxietynomore.co.uk/blog/2008/02/18/16/#comment-177 No More Anxiety Fri, 22 Feb 2008 23:49:27 +0000 http://anxietynomore.co.uk/blog/?p=16#comment-177 Hi Rick and welcome to my blog, also thank you for your kind words, I think a lot of people can relate to spending a fortune on useless treatements. Comments like yours make everything worth is, even if you do support Shefield united : ) Also yes on the massage I also go once a week, nothing is a quick fix but I really found it beneficial and still do, bit expensive at times but really helped me, that and general excercise, basically looking after myself. Paul Hi Rick and welcome to my blog, also thank you for your kind words, I think a lot of people can relate to spending a fortune on useless treatements. Comments like yours make everything worth is, even if you do support Shefield united : )

Also yes on the massage I also go once a week, nothing is a quick fix but I really found it beneficial and still do, bit expensive at times but really helped me, that and general excercise, basically looking after myself.

Paul

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