A random post about me!

I thought I would take a break from posting bits of advice and just post some random things. Please do feel free to post something below, it would be nice to know a little more about the people who post here. Well firstly I will just post a few boring bits about myself. I am 37 and live with my partner in Yorkshire, she like my mother was brilliant through my suffering and gave me nothing but support.

I used to work in engineering building turbo chargers, I did this for 11 years, before that I worked for a major sports company. The engineering job was very mundane and boring, the money was good but with my anxiety problems and the need for a change I left. I then went working for a friend of mine who had a carpet business. I did this for a while before I got into web design. I still build sites to this day for people. It is something I enjoy to a degree until you find someone who wants the site changing every two minutes, but its good fun and I am still learning to this day. I also have a few other sites myself, some active, some not as active. Each site takes a lot of work to promote so you tend to slack at times with one or two.

A few hobbies of mine. I love Rugby league and travel up and down the country every week watching games. I also bowl outdoor 3 times a week in the summer and also once a week indoor. I also play squash and football to try and stay fit, I really should eat better, that is always mine downfall at times, I try but the smell of fish and chips always wins : ) I love my ipod and like a wide range of music including R.E.M, Crowded House, Keane, Dance and soul.

I like spending time with friends and have also met some lovely people on-line. I have always thought of placing a forum on the site but they take so much time to moderate and keep up with that I have decided against it and stick with the blog instead. Although I get very busy I never want to be a faceless person behind a site, but the forum would be a step to far I am afraid.

Well that’s a little more about me. Please feel free to add something about yourself below, it would be great to know a little more about others, maybe I am just nosey : )

Thanks for listening

Paul

30 Responses to “A random post about me!”

  1. Paul McGowan Says:

    Hi Paul ,
    Well Paul thanks for telling us a little about you , I always think you should post a picture of yourself somewhere on the site! Or is that a step too far? Only joking ! Anyway I keep tabs on your site and have read the book , which i’m in the process of mastering at the moment . My name is Paul i have posted before I’m 38 yrs old , originally from Glasgow but now live in a small town in the north west of England. I am a Joiner to trade but for the last few years have been a fitter for a well known conservatory company which services the whole of the north west. I am a keen Celtic fan and do a lot of gym work , which gives me an interest and helps with the anxiety in some ways . Anxiety took its hold on me after a nervous breakdown following a failed immigration attempt and all the stress that came after it. I look forward to the day when i’ll have my life back in its truest form , but I have taken all on board you have said , and i’m prepared to wait for that time to come. iI have suffered from anxiety for 15 years, so time is not an issue to me , thanks for putting this site together and giving the people who visit it the hope and support they have in some cases been looking for all their lives.

    Take care

    Paul

  2. No More Anxiety Says:

    Paul thanks for posting. On the picture front on the site, only close friends and family know what I went through and there are a few friends and family that don’t know and I like to keep it that way, lets just say some can be ignorant on the subject. I have placed a little thumbnail pic of me at the top of the post.

    Thanks for telling us more about you, I also follow football, but rugby is my first sport.

    Paul

  3. gJoeyLowtown Says:

    Hi I’ve posted on here a few times and on the uncommon forum. Paul you may know a bit about my story but obviously you have to remember thousands of peoples stories. So for the benefit of everyone else. I live on the outskirts of Liverpool. Im 22 and an electrician by trade (self employed). My main interests are playing guitar, gym, motorbikes and music in general. My anxiety started through messing with drugs and setting up my own business. I suppose I can trace it right back through my life though. I feel im getting some kind of control over it though, mainly thanks to Paul. Im a Liverpool FC fan but, got two left feet ….. rather like Dirk Kuyt! I also enjoy fishing and would recommend it as a good hobby for anxiey sufferers.

  4. No More Anxiety Says:

    Thanks for that Joey. I actually used to go to Liverpool games (I wont mention Barnsley) Yes my friend is a season ticket holder there and I on rare occasions go there. Fishing would be wonderful for anxiety, I agree. In the summer I ride my bike on the canal and it is very theraputic. I can imagine opening a business is stressful, since my own recovery it made me realise how important my health is, a lot of my priorities have changed. The drugs I can relate to, that really was the trigger for me. Are you still running your own business by the way?

  5. Paul McGowan Says:

    Hi Paul ,
    i can understand now about you wanting to hold back on some fronts , your are very right , some people are very small minded when it comes to mental health issues , but you should be proud of what you are doing in helping so many others , that just leads to people wanting to put a face to the person who they have a great deal of respect for . Thanx
    Paul .

  6. Tarmo Says:

    Paul,

    I think it’s amazing that you managed to keep your relationship together while suffering severe depersonalisation. I know from my own experience that it can be really difficult to keep a person close to you when your feelings are behind closed doors and the whole world is unreal. On the other hand, staying too long in a relatioship that I wasn’t happy in made me “lose myself ” in the first place.

    I’m 28, living in Finland. I’m an elementary school teacher and I love my job in the days when I manage to move the focus away from myself enought to have some real contact with the kids. But in bad days my profession can be quite consuming for a dp-sufferer. But staying at home can be even more consuming so I think it’s better to keep going.

    I like music and different sports. I have a weird relationship with music: when I open up a little I love it but when I’m “at the deep end” I hate it. I guess it’s because when you’re out of touch with yourself your emotions are hidden, and enjoying music is all about emotions so… well that’s my own theory, I’d like to hear if any dp-sufferers share this view.

    Before becoming sick my greatest passion was playing guitar but when dp hit me I didn’t want to play for many months. I felt that I was so heavily focused inward that I couldn’t concentrate on playing, I just wasn’t there. And this added the fear and depression because I felt that I was losing everything that used to be important to me. Now I’m playing again, gradually more and more.

  7. No More Anxiety Says:

    Again thanks for your story Tammo. On the relationship front, it was very, very hard. I think deep down I wanted my partner to leave, I felt it was so unfair on her and I had no emotional side to give to her. I would not enjoy meeting people and this was a barrier when it came to family gatherings etc…But she also knew me when I did not suffer with D.P and she knew the person stood in front of her was not the real me, but it was very hard and I was very lucky she stuck with me. I used to take all my frustrations out on her but she took it all.

    I understand about the music and guiter side of things. When I felt so inward I got no joy from anything, I was a walking shell, but I still tried to do them. I always felt I had to cram in as much normal living as possible to re integrate back into normal living. The D.P left me bit by bit, as I say in my book it was like de-frosting, emotions came back little by little and I never demanded anything. I know we are all different but once I broke the habit of worry and fear about how I was feeling, then I began to notice a difference. That’s the trouble, I first got D.P through all the worry and fear of my anxiety, all the endless pondering and inward thinking, that I deveolped D.P, so I worried more and more about this new symptom and then, thinking deeply, trying to figure out what was wrong, which made me fall deeper into the condition and so the cycle continued until I was able to break this habit and understand my illness far more.

    I have met loads of musicans on here in the past. One (Dustin) placed a song on my main site about his struggles with anxiety, not sure if all of you have heard it but its a lovely song and can be found here http://www.anxietynomore.co.uk/anxiety_song.html

    Paul

  8. JoeyLowtown Says:

    Im happy to say that I am still running the business Paul. Unfortunately I lost a major contract when I was at my worst. Im now in negotiations with them again and they really have been great and very understanding. Whether the stress they bring is a good thing or not, I wont know for the moment. I just dont want anxiety to get in my way anymore. As for priorities mine have also extremely changed, however we all need money. Id love to dedicate my life to the cause like you, although unfortunately im basically computer illiterate so all I can really do is help on forums etc. Any help you ever need or anything you ever want people to be involved with, I’ll do my utmost to help! As for the business bringing stress, sure it does, but also its a bit less mundane than your average 9 to 5. So maybe in some ways it helps. Currently Im a sole trader so being isolated is getting to me at times!

  9. No More Anxiety Says:

    Well that’s good that you are still running your business and you are right we all need the money, this is why I stayed in my old job until I felt safe enough to leave it. I have just got a part time job helping kids after school, setting up football games, basket ball etc. I think being self employed certainly has its advantages, especially if it is doing well and you don’t have any extra stress where the next job is coming from.

    Thanks for the offer of help also. I really enjoy helping people and it took me two years of research and work to make the site popular and it has grown far bigger than I ever imagined. I always wanted to reach as many people as possible, but I also turn a lot of stuff down, I just don’t have the time and would rather keep low key.

    My new outlook is to not worry about anything I can’t change, like I say my whole outlook to life has changed and I get a lot of enjoyment out of helping people, you can never get fed up when someone tells you that you have helped them.

  10. Paul McGowan Says:

    I was interested in the point Tarmo made about , keeping a relationship together while suffering from dp and in the same breath he mentions that staying in that relationship was what made him lose himself in the first place !! My question is what came first , in my personal experience i am very confused about my relationship with my partner and wonder sometimes or lot of the time if thats what actually fuels my anxiety ? or if its the dp that is just making me feel that way !! it is very confusing when your thoughts and feelings are so detached ! Whats real and whats not ? i know this probably srays from the origional topic of this blog , but i couldnt miss the chance to see what you thought !!!
    Paul

  11. JoeyLowtown Says:

    Tammo I can relate. I’m a guitar player. Ive played in a few bands, one that was doing really well. http://www.myspace.com/cedarfalls the guitar in the videos is all my playing, but the mp3s are all new recordings since I’ve left. My point is, when I was suffering my worst, I couldnt focus on practice anymore and the band felt so insignificant against my worries. I now am playing again in my bedroom bit by bit and hope to hit the stage again one day! I think DP and anxiety robs you of a lot of your enjoyment, but if you can relax, then the enjoyment is still there to be had, for sure!

    Paul I know this isnt the place, but I really want to make a request of your knowledge, because there must be thousands more like me, who need this……….

    Could you please do a blog regarding obsessive thought cycles. Mine are fear of dying, fear of hurting someone physically or sexually, all the usual, fear of self harm/suicide, ITS CRIPPLING MATE and my last symptom to go. I know you yourself have suffered these and your bit in your book is amazing, but without being nosy could you elaborate a little more on what you suffered. Thanks mate! It is the memory of having these thoughts and the fear of them and trying not to think them that is keeping me thinking them!

  12. Tarmo Says:

    Paul McGowan: I know exactly what you mean about having hard time figuring out what is causing what!! All situations are different so I can only talk about mine here, yours may be a different story. When I started feeling bad about my relationship I tried to convince myself for a long time that it’s not about the relationship, that it’s my personal mess that is causing my feelings. I suffered more and more and eventually the only thing I was able to think about was “why don’t I feel good with her although it should be perfect”. And this was when depersonalisation came in. I filled my mind with worry about this one issue because I had a dream (being with this girl for the rest of my life) and I had decided to follow that dream no matter what. Eventually my mind was so messed up that I just had to leave her, choose the least bad option of two terrible options. This made the sharpest anxiety go away but at the same time I felt as if I had fallen in a deep hole with depersonalisation as my only friend. For a long time I felt that I didn’t have the strength to start climbing back up but now, partly thanks to Paul, something seems to be happening.

    Joey: That was amazing to read, my story is very similiar!! I used to play in bands as well and it was the most important thing in my life (with tours, recordings and all). But with dp the whole thing lost it’s meaning and became frustrating. The more I tried the worse I felt so I had to quit. It was a very contradictory decision and it was very difficult to explain to anyone. At least I know now that one person in this world knows exactly what I went through. I miss playing live a lot but I’m not ready for it yet. I hope the day will come for both of us but we need to give it the time it needs.

    I love this blog.

  13. Tarmo Says:

    Paul McGowan: I forgot this – yeah, I totally agree with you that the ability to enjoy is still there, we just need to open the shell that is covering it. I sometimes find myself enjoying playing a lot when I forget myself for a while. I guess the key thing is to learn to stop monitoring yourself, then all the emotions can come as they are.

  14. No More Anxiety Says:

    Some very interesting thoughts above. Firstly I will come back and comment on them in the near future. I am just very busy building a couple of websites at the moment. So if I go quiet for a few days then I will always be back. It is also nice to see people talking about certain things between themselves in the meantime. I always say just knowing someone else has been through it makes your symptoms less scary and in many cases D.P follows a certain pattern. So many people think they are the only ones in the world to suffer in this way. I know I did, when I suffered there was no internet to find information. I really thought I was going crazy. I remember the first time I read about D.P, I could not believe that anyone else could go through this or that it had a name, that in itself was such a relief.

    Joey I will make that my next post if you wish. I will try not to repeat what is in the book and come at it from a similar angle, but also try and put it another way. Sometimes the same explanation, but written differently can have a different effect and make it easier to understand.

    Paul

  15. Debbie Says:

    Really good to hear a little about you!! It is so important to have an understanding partner, my husband is one in a million. I’m continuing to get on with things, i’ve been to occupational health today about goin back to work. i’ve been off for 10 months now! scary. I’m a nurse so things change so quickly. its a bit daunting. but the dp seems to be less intense, i try not to think about it really. i do believe you when you say it fades like the rest of the symptoms, to be honest i thought it would never go away!! but i see improvements…. its just a case of getting on with your life and making the most of things, with all your feelings and symptoms beside you, as you progress through life then i’m sure they will fade and one day it will dawn on us…. “oh, i feel pretty damn good today!” untill it is something we don’t think about at all.

  16. Paul McGowan Says:

    Thanx Tarmo for your comments , time tells all i suppose ! ! its a great help just to make contact with fellow anxiety sufferers , sometimes helping other people with their fears and anxiety problems , can in a strange way be a tonic in itself !
    Talk Soon
    Paul .

  17. Donna (Dee) Says:

    Hi gang! I am really impressed with this blog. I began having panic attacks in 1999. Little did I know at the time that mine was caused by stress. I was getting divorced, my mom was in the hospital gravely ill, my son has Autism and my job gets the best of me. I wished I would have known all this back then, but hind sight is always 20/20. I could have sworn I was a dead woman with how severe they got.
    I am 31 now, remarried. I live in GA, USA. I stumbled across this sight last year trying to find a way out of my own personal h*ll. It started with the trouble swallowing and went downhill from there. I think I had ever single symptom known to man with it. DP, DR, shakes, ruminating thoughts, lack of appetite, IBS, trouble swallowing, lack of sleep, etc.. I cannot tell you the amount of money I spent trying to get better. It’s sickening really. This (Paul’s book) clicked with me to just accept it.

    I too had the strange homicidal and suicidal thoughts, though I am not either of those things normally. Quite literally I took what Paul had to say and I told them to hang around that I wasn’t scared of them anymore and they could be there if they wanted. They did finally go away – took about a month for me. The only lingering symptom for me is a fear of choking. I have trouble swallowing. Of course, hate it. I looooooove food and even more I love to cook and bake. Stinks that I can’t eat what I’ve just made. :-)

    Any ideas and suggestions are of course welcome.

    Thanks for the post! I really like getting to know everyone.

  18. No More Anxiety Says:

    Debbie you are so right and exactly what I did and recovery sort of crept up on me, I would think, wow how far have I come in the last 6 months etc….I had bad days of course but I just tried to get on with my life with all my worrys and feelings beside me, I stopped trying to control them, which is what makes the illness re-invent itself at times. This is what people make the mistake of doing, they try to ‘rid’ themselves of how they feel and this is all wrong. I always repeat to people, to just be happy with progress, don’t demand anything, this just leads to impaitence and dissapointment.

    Paul

  19. No More Anxiety Says:

    Welcome Debbie by the way and thank you for your comments on the book, I am truly glad it helped you. I also spent a fortune trying to find answers, it makes me angry now how people can give you what they know to be useless treatments, I try and warn people away as much as I can, but I know from my own experience how desperate people can get.

    Paul

  20. Rick Says:

    Hi Paul, everyone.

    My name is Rick and im 25now, i am self employed and run my own building firm. Ive suffered with anxiety for about 6 years athough not constantly. Funny enough seems to pop up every 2 years. However the last dose i had really struck me down and drained me of everything. If i think logically about why, i could probably fill a toilet roll of reasons and explanations why.

    Lets say im a extrovert, and to be left feeling absolute emptyness and like Paul says ”shell like figure”. WOW i didnt know what to do. I went through hundreds and hundreds of pounds at pointless and unbenificial treatments.The Doctor put me on medication which made things worse, the things i love doing (football) didnt feel natural to play. I can remember one game, i played really well but i couldn’t remember playing. Weird.

    But the last £15 pound i spent was the last and best. Your book is what i would call the holy grail. Ok things didn’t happen overnight but everything seemed clearer. It was like wow that makes sense. Now well on my way to full recovery I would say that without your help Paul i dread to think where or what i would be doing.

    My emotions are back, and it feels good. Even work feels good, I can concentrate and do the things and think about things that i used too.
    Well thats about all really. I now play football every weekend and enjoy it. (yes people im a sheffield united supporter) I go out with my friends ( trying not to drink too much because i find this doesnt help the old nerves)
    Just generally getting back the old me but more refined and stronger!!!!!!!!
    Just quickly, i found that massasge helps to relax, not a quick fix but a more balancing effect.
    Just thought I would add that.

    Once again thank you Paul, you should get an OBE for what you have acheived.

    Take care

    Rick

  21. No More Anxiety Says:

    Hi Rick and welcome to my blog, also thank you for your kind words, I think a lot of people can relate to spending a fortune on useless treatements. Comments like yours make everything worth is, even if you do support Shefield united : )

    Also yes on the massage I also go once a week, nothing is a quick fix but I really found it beneficial and still do, bit expensive at times but really helped me, that and general excercise, basically looking after myself.

    Paul

  22. JR Says:

    I wanted to drop a line. I suffer from DP and anxiety for awhile now. I purchased Paul’s book and it really makes tons of sense. I’m managed to get a degree and hold a pretty good job with all these feelings. This blog is very nice and I couldn’t pass up the chance to mention something that Paul McGowan was mentioning. I dated my wife in high school and then I went to college on my own. It was a real change and we tried to keep our relationship strong. During the year that I was at college basically alone I very stressed and thought about my life and girlfriend a lot wondering if that was what I wanted to do with my life. I wanted to get married to her, but also wanted to be young and “play the field so to speak”. She came up to college the next year and things got a little better. Then with all this constant thinking and stress from college I think I started to lose myself, but I was never aware of anxiety or anything along those lines. Looking back to think I really fell into anxiety at the end of high school beginning college. I just remember my whole self kind of changing from the funny person I was before. Anyways, I remember noticing DP one day and it totally freaked me out. I ran to the internet and heard all the horrible stories about it. The next thing I knew I was consumed with this and purchased methods to try to get better. Basically I was able to get through college and my girlfriend stayed with me through it all although I didn’t know much about all the increase sexual thoughts and constant thinking part of anxiety. I never was myself and my relationships suffered. I decided to just move on with my life and I was feeling a little better. My girlfriend and I got married and things started getting a little better. Basically I loved her but I didn’t know why. I just always felt so empty emotionally. Now I’m starting to really try and get better I feel deep down that if I was 100% I would love my wife to death, but I just have this other side of me that when I look at her I don’t feel anything…i guess b/c of DP, sometimes, like most people I know, look so foreign to me.

    Paul…what do you think? I guess I don’t what to do…I kind of scared that when I fully recover I won’t love her fully. She is really an angel.

  23. Frank Says:

    Hey all. I’m 20 years old and have been suffering for almost a year now. I consider myself one of the luckiest people here since I discovered this site quite early while I was suffering. Another reason why I find myself lucky is because the advice given here is really helpful and to think that people have suffered through years of this really makes me feel fortunate that my cure is not 10 years away. I would say that the root cause of my anxiety is mainly stress since this was my first year in a University setting. The workload seemed like a dramatic jump from secondary school.

    The driving force of my anxiety situation is the fear of change. Ever since my close relative became very ill (she’s recovered now), I kept thinking that some kind of even will occur in my life and that I’ll have to change the way i do things. I was especially afraid of losing the things i enjoy most such as my hobbies and other things. I’ve made 3 or so visits to the doctor and all 3 times he’s given me the all clear and that physically i was as healthy as can be. Regardless, this fear stayed in my mind for quite a while. Finally after stumbling across this site, the advice given seemed genuine and had the most truth to it; unlike other sites that claim that recovery has a set time associated with it. I now see recovery as a journey and when I look back I can only see how much better i have become since this has all started.

    One of the many things that has helped me with my recovery, other than this site and my family is my religion. I am Christian and i find that visiting church and praying more often is a great way to release your anxiety as you shift your attention to something that is far greater than life itself. Sometimes, I feel that our faith can help us through the rough patches and I encourage people to give their faith a try if trouble comes passing by.

    As for my personal life, I am a bit younger than most of you people so my hobbies will be a bit different. I enjoy playing video games, watching tv, movies, reading, and sports such as basketball, pool, and cycling.

    My favourite video games include guitar hero, dance dance revolution, street fighter, kingdom hearts, and the devil may cry series. I enjoy playing these games in a social environment with my friends who share the same passion that i have for these kinds of games.

    To end this post. I’d like thank Paul for creating this site as I feel it has led me on the right path to recovery. I’d also like to thank each and every member who posts here as it makes my own anxiety condition feel less and less personal and that I’m not the only one suffering from this. I wish everyone the best and that recovery for all of you is just around the corner.

    Cheers and God Bless.

    Frank

  24. Rick Says:

    JR Hello
    I too have also suffered this to a certain extent. My list of stressers and fears could have filled a toilet roll. One that i can relate to you is that my anxiety has never been constant, I have suffered for six years but not constant. Every two years ive had an episode as i call them. This relates to relationship breakdowns. Every time i have come out of a relationship the anxiety seems to come back. The question i have to ask myself is would i stay in a new relationship because im scared of anxiety coming back?? Well NO definately not. no matter how bad don’t let anxiety rule anything, it wont help in the long run. And of course that should be the key aim long term to be totally worry free.
    Im not trying to tell you about relationships, that would be wrong . however i can remember feeling the exact same about a previous partner.
    Hope this helps
    Rick

  25. Shirley Dalley Says:

    Today is Sunday, dull but warm. I have woken up at a decent time not my usual 4.30am, maybe even had a good few hours solid sleep, not sure. I have had this infliction for 6 months now, unemployed but trying to get a job. I need a nice job to get my confidence back.Then hopefully the road to recovery.Today, I seem to be minus some of my symptoms – surely that’s not right? Where are they?I feel odd without them.
    I moved back home to my parents (after my second failed marriage) 12 months ago at the age of 47, changed my former life of 27yrs, had a minor car accident in July 2007. Packed in a full time job (due to a persons bad attitude). I pay a tiny rent for my room, what if I had a mortgage? How would I manage – stress, stress, stress!!! The words just make my mind whirl!! I ramble in my conversation,sometimes don’t even know whether I got up this morning. What a terrible thing this does to you. Normally sane – normally happy – now like an unsmiling zombie.
    I like the sunshine – i appreciate it more now.
    My counsellor says that I must reward myself for any positive thought. I think from this weekend I may be rewarding myself more often. Lets hope so.
    When I need reassurance i immediately turn to this website – it is the greatest and when i read the contacts list I know I am so much better off than others – all different stages of the infliction.In life in general I know I am so much better off than others, especially my young friends who aren’t around in this life any more. At least I am alive – to what degree sometimes I question.This site is my reading therapy. Thank you for taking the time

  26. samantha Says:

    hi
    alittle bit about me , i am 40 yrs old married with 2 teenagers 3 dogs and a cat !!!

    i first started suffering anxiety in sept 2007 and had to defer my final year of my degree ( psychology and coinselling) i hope to get back to it this sept. i wont go into great detail but it was extreme anxiety i have never felt so bad , however now i am back volunteering , out driving my car etc , i am plodding on i am very hard on myself thinking i should be able to do more but those around me tell me i am doing great so i have to belive them . paul your book was a godsend when i was able to accept i was suffering with anxiety ( i refused to beleive it was anxiety) thought i was going mad!!! your book is very much of the claire weekes method and beleive this none of the professionals i have come into contact with have heard of claire weekes

    thanks again for the book when i started accepting it was anxiety i started to read your book

    samantha xxx

  27. No More Anxiety Says:

    Hi Samantha, Yes Claire weekes was the first book I ever picked up and she did have an influence on me. I could not really make it work for me and sort of devolped my own theorys through a lot of trial and error and learning how the body and mind function. I always felt once I had worked one thing out, a lot of other things made sense.

    On the professionals not having heard of Claire weekes. Its funny that because they have to supply their email address when they purchase the book, you would not believe how many actually buy my book, this is people who are charging a fortune for their time, therapists, hypnosis, life coaches etc…etc…Just shows they may actually wake up to the fact they don’t really know about the subject. In my opinion you have to go throught it before you can ever begin to try and help people with anxiety.

    Take care

    Paul

  28. Sandra Says:

    I just purchased your book. I started reading in on Sunday and finished it today Monday and you have got it so right the emotions, the anxiety and every aspect of the feelings. It has made me feel better just reading it and to find out just how other people are suffering like myself and how we can achieve recovery little by little. I myself have been in and out of websites and it got to the point that it actually made me feel depressed reading some of the articles but when I found your site it uplifted me. I know I am now on the right path and know what I have to do. Thank you so very much for sharing your book with us.

    Sandra

  29. No More Anxiety Says:

    My pleasure Sandra. I found before I built my site that there were two types of websites about anxiety. One that just tried to sell you the latest miracle cure and others filled with articles, adverts and nothing really different. There were one or two that I could relate to but I hoped I could put far more good information out there, something that people could really relate to, hopefully I achieved that.

    Take care and thanks for posting.

    Paul

  30. Shirley D. Says:

    I am like a woman posessed! now the book has arrived it is by my side constantly, it is my bible. It’s suprising just how one sentence read can calm your insides.
    Yesterday was a real bad morning. too little sleep again, even got to the stage where my partner had to come on my walk as i had threatened to jump into the river and not return. By the time i had eaten my bowl of Ready Brek it had all changed (mind you this was mid afternoon) by the evening I was changing beds and hoovering. The mind is so fickle.
    Yesterday evening I was taking down notes from the book like an avid student, I would like to get some of the more calming and soothing sentences stuck to the wall just so it’s there before my eyes – Acceptance.
    I have even thought about getting some luminous paint so that I can read them in the dark – because that is the worst time. The dark and no one to talk to or rather you don’t want to wake anyone else up.
    You may think that this blog is a bit flippant and rather strange but this is my message, I am feelings lots better and it’s all due to being able to concentrate on the book and actually take in the words, the first time of reading I had both the blurry vision and the blurry brain and just ended up skimming the pages, nothing sunk in. The second time of reading (almost next day) and it has started to sink in. The reason the book is so good is that there isn’t too much ramble, the same solutions are issued over and over again but in different explanations and the final message that comes across is acceptance. Accept the panic/anxiety and it’s a reverse psychology, never knew it could be so simple.We try to teach this to our naughty children – (why don’t we teach it more to ourselves) That and the fact that I have banged on about this website so much to my family that they have finally started to understand and they have finally realised that they can’t push me to get better. The site is full of good hard facts.

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