New Blog on anxiety and panic started today.
Well here we start all over again with my blog. Yes I had some severe techie problems and lost my other one and all its info. But don’t worry I will try and pack this one with as much info as I can, answering questions, posting about me, giving you the latest info and more. So to everyone who followed my other, Hi, I am back and to any newcomers, I welcome you aboard.
Once I sort out the theme and other bits and bobs then I will create my first post.
Paul
December 7th, 2007 at 5:03 pm
hey paul. Id like to request a post about eye floaters. Do dark/obvious ones fade out? And how to manage the frustration with them.
December 12th, 2007 at 4:55 am
Just finished reading the book and as always i started getting anxious in the beginning, but as I kept reading on I felt better. You made so much sense. I totally understand the not rushing and accepting you symptoms idea…but I must say out of all the symptoms discussed in your book….the one I struggle with and sends me into panic and worry is my breathing. That symptom wasn’t covered too much in your book. It is extremely scary, I feel like I have to gasp for air and I am so out of breath, it seems, that I can’t even talk at times because I don’t have air….or more that I feel like I have no air. Very troubling and really the only symptom that freaks me out. I don’t know what to do, I am scared to just accept that feeling and go through it, it is very hard. Any suggestions? Is it something to worry about? I mean obviously nothing has happened to me thus far but still hard, I go into full panic and it stops me from doing things for fear that it will happen and I wont be able to get help if it becomes out of control.
December 17th, 2007 at 2:27 pm
Hi Jeannie, I do cover this symptom in the book, but as you say not too much as anxiety is the main topic through out the book. Fisrtly this is very common when feeling panic, a lack of air, a need to gasp for air. Now because it is freaking you out, you are adding more fear to this symptom, making the feelings stronger, gasping for more air, starting with all the ‘What if I can’t cope’?, ‘What If I faint, make a fool of myself’?.
You even say later on that you don’t do things because you fear it will happen. Now this is covered in the book. You should always do things and go through the way you feel, this is where the victorys lie. I never let the way I feel stop me going anywhere. So what if I feel some panic, what’s the worst that can happen? It is only adrenalin, it cannot harm me.
And that’s all it is? It should never be ‘Oh god what if it happens here’ the attitude you should be aiming for is ‘I don’t care if it does’. While you live in constant fear of a symptom, then you are setting yourself up to feel panic rise. Well let it rise, let it go where it wants, you wont collapse or lose control, trust me. Take some deep breaths, keep calm in your attitude and tell yourself you will be fine.
I help a lady last week and she took my advice and went to see her daughter in a school play, she said she felt panic rise but just told herself it was just adrenalin and she would be fine. She emailed me in a state of elation, it was the first time she had not run for the exit, she sawe it through without adding anymore fear and it calmed and she was able to watch the rest of the play with no problems.
Of course she may feel panic rise again, but she lost a lot of fear that day for it, she knew that she did have some control over it and that without adding fear to fear it would die down. It always does, your bosy can only produce so much adrenalin anyway.
It’s hard to advise too much on here, but do re-read the chapter on panic attacks, although I hate that label. I would rather call them attacks of excess adrenalin. Re-read it, take on board the above and above all try not to live your life in fear of a feeling. Stay calm in your attitude, take some slow, deep breaths and you may begin to see a change.
January 2nd, 2008 at 9:36 am
Just finished the book and I thought it was excellent. I found it hard to read at first because thinking about my anxiety stresses me out. I have a question though. Does anybody ever feel numb physically? Is that a symptom of anxiety because I get it and its the thing that freaks me out the most. I can’t touch or feel things physically and its really hard to get through the day feeling like that.
January 7th, 2008 at 4:07 pm
hi andrew yes i feel the same way like whatever i touch it dont feel real, i feel very numb too. i think it my be depression , i just started feeling this way but had many panic attacks before this feeling so i think by having panic attacks all the time and feeling very bad we get depressed and then turn numb, dont know for sure. but since i started feeling numb, i cry for no reason, and thats a sign of depression. just a hypotisis. but this numb feeling and depersonalization is knocking the heck out of me im exhausted from it all, yes yes yes its hard to get through the day .
January 19th, 2008 at 3:25 am
Paul,
i was surfing the net came across your site. i have`nt order your book yet but will this week when i get paid. im 38 have 3 kids, i been to atleast half dozen of dotors that saids its stress/ anxiety. i`m not into taking med`s im very funny about what i take , most doctors are drug happy, dont care about the side effects. when i seen your site….i cried cause you wrote everything about the way i felt,my husband is not supported at all with me , when i have a panic attack i get scared try to talk to him to help me through it, instead he tells me im crazy , im loosing my mind , or im driving him nuts to shut up, by then im full blown in fear. noone understand what im talking about when i say i feel like everything is so unreal, and everything seems to make me worrie. but i have numbness alot during the day, but most of the time when i wake up im numb in my lips,face, tongue is this anxiety ? my blood pressure been staying 146/88 i dont take no meds for it cause it floats from this to normal all the time. did anyone else having problems with there bp/ or face going numb.
thank you so much for your site, but thank you for being someone that willing to listen , help others to overcome anxiety. may god always put a smile in your heart and bless you for your kindness.
Raven
January 20th, 2008 at 1:07 pm
I Raven, Yes unfortuanley some partners don’t understand and have little patience. This is a massive problem, if we have a cold, they understand as we have symptoms, but anxiety, well there is nothing wrong with you. I told my partner, you don’t have to understand, just believe me and she was great. The extra pressure of someone telling you to pull yourself together is hard, I mean do they really think we want to feel like this?
The numb feeling is anxiety yes, this is very common, also like an empty body feeling, lacking emotion. I used to feel like a walking shell. Your body is emotionly and physically drained, through fear and worry of your condition.
Anyway I do hope you get the opportunity to read my book, I am sure it will teach you so much more and knowledge really is key to turning things around.
Paul
February 6th, 2008 at 6:08 pm
I think my anxiety started after a nightmare – which I have dealt with and accepted.
I worry about other mental health conditions being wrong with me and then wait for something scary to happen.
At Work – someone said something, which I found extremely upsetting and then worried it would happen to me, which then upset me.
I seem to get scared by most things and have some very disturbing and strange thoughts.
I just want to get back to how I used to be.
Physical symptoms I experience – occasional fast heat beat, nausea. Occasional sleep problems.
Does this sound like anxiety or it is something else?
February 7th, 2008 at 10:25 am
Hi and welcome, This sounds very much like anxiety. Have you been under stress or taken a lot of life changes recently? What you almost certainly have is anxiety, every symptom you mention is very common. Please go to my main site and read all the information on there http://www.anxietynomore.co.uk The reason you are scared and worried is because you don’t understand what is wrong with you, but there really is no reason to worry.
Please go and read through the information and I am sure it will put your mind at rest and explain a few things.
Paul
February 7th, 2008 at 5:13 pm
Thank you for taking the time to reply. Your site has been very useful. Today has been a good day – somedays I see things so more clearly and others, it just gets a bit much. I know it will take time, but understanding and losing the fear I seem to have most of the time is the key for me I feel.
Thanks again.
February 7th, 2008 at 7:28 pm
Yes losing the fear is a big step towards recovery and less fear comes with more knowledge, so do take in the information and have a good look around the site.
Paul
March 19th, 2008 at 1:51 pm
hi, could i request a post on existantial anxiety and get some feedback from people regards there thoughts on the subject it is something i am experiencing just now and would like to hear about other peoples experiences.
thanks lee
June 12th, 2008 at 7:25 pm
Hi Paul,
I have been suffering all kinds of ailments for the past year [or so I thought]. I have been to the doctors I don’t know how many times. I have had 4 full blood tests done, diabetes tests, thyroid tests, ECG on my heart and all have come back normal.
It all started last August I woke one night sweating, all of my muscles were tight and my heart was racing. At first I thought I was having a heart attack and that ‘This is it’ I believed I was going to die. But then I realised I had no pain in my chest or arms and I could walk. This was my first panic attack and it was immense. It was on and off until about 4am and had started around 0030.
Following that my problems started. I started to get to get stomach trouble, bowel trouble, headaches, muscle pain, tension, difficulty breathing, pain in my temples, jaw. You name it I had it.
I decided I would research my problems on the Internet as the doctors were just throwing pills at me that gave me real trouble with side effects. My research yielded me with great results I was able to diagnose myself with a whole host of wonderful problems.
What I was doing, in fact, was, finding things I thought fit and then worrying about them and hey presto I would have the symptoms. I would make a doctors appointment and go off and tell them about it. Usually when I got to the doctors the symptoms would have disappeared and I would feel like a prat describing things that were not there and I got more pills and more checks done.
One doctor mentioned stress and told me to do relaxing things like yoga. Guess what It did not work.
And so it went on. I had been under a lot of stress for a few months prior to my first panic attack.
Finally I started realise that I could not possibly have all these thing coming and going and decided to research this. When I found your site I was amazed. It was if you had written about me! Everything was there that I was feeling and I realised that there were other people, lots of them, that were having the same problems.
Reading the website has started to help me make some sense of this problem so I have ordered your book.
I will look forward to reading it and gaining some understanding of my anxiety.
I will let you know how I get on and fully intend to follow your advice as you have been here and come out the other side. Some websites I have looked at suggest there is no other side and you have to live with it. Great advice to keep the anxiety going full pelt!
I am on the first steps of this journey to recovery and I am glad someone is coming with me to guide me.
Cheers Paul.
July 14th, 2010 at 3:12 pm
Paul, I read your book, and want to thank you, as it explained a lot to me. However, like you, I know its one day at a time, but have been thru hell. I suffer with Chronic Fatigue, Endometrisois, IBS and Thyroid issues. Been in the relationship from emotional hell for 5yrs, he has just left me, walked out when I needed him the most.
Since feb I have been getting breathless, heart racing, adrenaline rushes and weak, they all thought it was my iron, as it was 5 at the time time, its now 20.
But this has gone on for 6months, in and out of hospital, 3000 pounds of medical bills, all tests mostly negative. Get woken every morn at 6am with horriffic adrenaline rush or heart racing, since reading your book, things have started to make sense to me, and im working hard on the not responding and letting it go over me. Been wearing a heart monitor as they did find out I have tacchardia. I so want to get better, and im doing alll i can, although the chronic fatigue doesnt help. I went thru so much anger emotional issues these last 5yrs, that i think my brain and body had enough, and went right stop! I had to come back to my parents to be cared for, and i guess that got me away from the relationship. I have bad weeks and good weeks, drs giving me weekly b12 injecs to help with the CF. I just need help to build my confidence back, and start slowly getting back out there, as when i move about my heart pounds. But im determined to get there, any tips you could advise me on, once again thank you for your wonderful book, its now my bible. All the best Wendy
August 31st, 2010 at 8:32 am
Hallo, Paul, and Everybody else
I have very similar experience as you do. Came to same conclusion and got recovered.
2 years ago I experienced anxiety for the first time. It was terrible as I m sure you know. It started one night, because I couldn’t breathe due to hernia, of course I thought worse, Cancer or some other deadly disease. Then came panic attack and anxiety and stayed with me for 4 months, 4 terrible months.
Went to doctors and took care of hernia problem and been told many times that I m healthy. But anxiety stayed, I was not anxious about disease or being sick any more, I was anxious about being anxious, something I experienced for first time in my life.
For 4 months I suffered, it was my last semester of college, I decided to quit, was not answering my friends phone calls, they thought I was ignoring them; I didn’t care what they think. My parents were terrified, looking at me and not being able to help. My biggest help was my girlfriend at the time, now my wife, she stayed with me, and helped me all the time, even when I was mad, yelled at her, or just plain asshole, excuse my language.
Finally I got tired of being anxious, after 4 months I spoke to anxiety as it was person. I felt as little boy in the middle school being bullied by some older and bigger boy. I was being bullied, and bullied, and bullied for four long months, and finally I said to the bully COME AND GET ME!!!! I said I DON’T CARE ANY MORE, and I didn’t I was ready to fight that bully even if he kills me in that fight. Guess what happened, bully backed off and disappeared completely in matter of days. I was my old myself again, finished college, got married, got really god job, and bought house.
Now, I m sitting here and writing you about my experience from 2 years ago, how did I find you now and took me two years to search. Well the bully came back tonight. I have been experiencing some neck pain and headaches for about two weeks, my chiropractor is treating me and he says it comes from my spine in my neck. But guess what, I worry, I think it’s worse as I did first time I felt anxiety. And every time I get sick for whatever reason, I fear worse, and that brings the bully back, but tonight I seemed to forget that I had beaten that bully once before. Bought your book and read about 30 pages so far, anxiety gone already, I am so glad that you wrote this book, I had idea to write my experience, but I m not good writer and don’t have time, so makes me happy that you published this book that will help so many people to get born again.
Please respond, would mean a lot to me.
Thanks